Bad Habits from Prayer Meetings



As we conclude this chapter from Close Your Church for Good called “Let Prayer Meetings Cease” I have two recommendations for prayer meetings. The first one is below, the second will get posted tomorrow.

Prayer Meetings

Look at all of these prayer meetings! Would there be a better way for these people to spend there time?

Prayer Meetings Teach Bad Prayer Habits

First, we must recognize that most of the bad habits that people use in prayer are learned not from Scripture, but from prayer meetings. Scripture teaches us that God is a friend and a Father, there by our side, wanting to have an ongoing conversation with us about what is important to Him and what is important to us. We can talk to Him as we would talk to any other person.

But the things we learn in prayer meetings would never occur to someone who had not ever attended a prayer meeting. It is in prayer meetings where we learn that prayer must be said in a certain location, using certain terminology and language, and sitting, or standing, or kneeling in a certain posture. It is in prayer meetings that people learn the repetitive use of God’s name and certain phrases and to use 1611 King James English.

It is because of prayer meetings that we feel justified in spreading gossip about others, and calling it “sharing a prayer request.” It is because of payer meetings that we delay praying for someone when they need it, telling them instead, “I’ll mention it at prayer meeting.” It is because of prayer meetings that we often feel it is better to pray about a need than actually do something to meet that need. It is because of prayer meetings that we feel if we pray, we don’t have to obey. If we pray for world missions and evangelism, we don’t have to do it ourselves.

Organic Prayer Meetings

Finding Organic ChurchFrank Viola has noticed many similar patterns in prayer meetings, and in his book Finding Organic Church, he writes this:

…Many Christians have picked up a great deal of artificiality in the way they pray and talk about spiritual matters. This is largely due to imitating bad models. To be more pointed: The way that many Christians pray is abysmal.

I would advise against having meetings where everyone offers a prayer request. Why? Two reasons. First, those meetings will no doubt turn out to be highly religious. (In every “prayer-request” meeting I’ve ever been in, the kinds of things that some Christians ask god to do for them range from the ludicrous to the insane.) Second, those meetings will be the first step down a slippery slope that will eventually become the death knell for your group.

There’s a great deal of unlearning and relearning that we Christians need when it comes to communing with the Lord. If the truth be told, most Christians would do well to allow their way of praying to go into death.


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  • http://www.truth-makes-freedom.blogspot.com/ Katherine Gunn

    Hmm…I really am looking forward to the completion of this book. :-D

    One of the things I have come to watch for – and attempt to avoid – is allowing prayer, or any other part of my relationship with Jesus, to become ritualized. We humans seem to have a built-in default setting that wants to turn everything into a 3 or 5 or 10 steps programs of ‘how it is properly done to get the desired results’. Sigh.

    • http://www.tillhecomes.org Jeremy Myers

      I finish this chapter on prayer tomorrow. After that, only five more chapters to write!

      • http://www.truth-makes-freedom.blogspot.com/ Katherine Gunn

        I didn’t mean to imply I was getting tired of it… ;-)

        I meant I am looking forward to reading the finished product. :-)

        • http://antwrites.com Ant Writes

          SURE you did ;)

        • http://www.tillhecomes.org Jeremy Myers

          I’m looking forward to it also! ;)

          I have so many other things I want to move on to…

  • http://thebible-verse-by-verse.blogspot.com/ tomg

    Great post!

    Although I found it rather ironic that immediately underneath the post on the day I read it was an ad to post a prayer request at the Christian Prayer Request Center. :)

    But it really is a great post. I have been learning a lot about prayer lately from Matthew 6 and John 16.

    • http://www.tillhecomes.org Jeremy Myers

      Tomg,
      Yeah, I saw that Google ad the other day also and thought it was ironic. A while back, on a post about how we sometimes spend too much on church buildings, the Google ad was for a company that specializes in church building mortgages. Pretty funny (or sad)!

  • http://antwrites.com Ant Writes

    If I may suggest “Destined for the throne” by Paul Billheimer? It will increase your outlook on prayer seven-fold.
    I gave it a review here http://antwrites.com/2011/12/07/book-review-destined-for-the-throne-by-paul-billheimer/

    • http://www.tillhecomes.org Jeremy Myers

      Anthony,
      I have read it, but don’t remember much about it. I will pull it back out and look through it again.

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